Originally Posted by
whalespicy 
I have left and returned many many times. My job is portable. I could just leave and find work.
my question is: why haven't you yet? my guess is not a whole lot has changed since you came here last time, and things will probably only continue to get worse.
as far as responsibilities, i would say you are responsible for yourself (and your dogs) and no one else. everyone is responsible for their own actions. if your wife isn't sharing her part of the responsibility for your marriage, i wouldn't place that all on myself. it might be hard, but the only person you have to account for is yourself. i say, let her hit her bottom and see if she's ready to change at that point.