yep, i have to second prod. i have found peace in going to bed at night when ah is out knowing that i am going to sleep through the night for me, for my own health and wellbeing. i used to stay up worrying until i realized that it wasn't good for my health -lack of sleep was aging me.
i go to bed knowing that whatever happens to ah it will be him that will have to get himself out of it. i will never rescue him from a situation like that. i really feel that it is important to let another deal with the consequences of their actions. to me, anything less is enabling and cushioning a blow that needs to be felt to lead them to recovery.
A's need to reach a bottom, as do we. we slow the process by continually putting soft warm blankets on the ground for them
