Originally Posted by
nowinsituation 
So, maybe even if the kids don't consciously realize what is going on -- there is something they will carry with them in their subconscious.
I think this is absolutely possible, and even quite likely. I also think that even if the alcohol is not treated as a problem (it wasn't in my childhood home), the dysfunctional behavior is what is learned. And boy, did I learn it good!
Be as honest as is appropriate with your children without demonizing their father. I told my kids that their dad was sick and needed to get help for his drinking, but that we (the kids and me) were not able or qualified to help him.
Best wishes to you,
L