My mother started drinking when I was young. She got much worse after my father died when I was 13. She grew worse and worse and 10 years later she sobered up.
The problem is, her behavior affected my sis and me, and she will not recognize the damage she has done. Yes, she was horridly mean and hateful. No, she won't apoligize.
My sister will have nothing to do with her any more. I am 52 yrs old and still to this day there are problems with my mother even though she quit drinking almost 30 years ago!
Alanon helps me tremendously. I would still be crazy and out of control had I not found it. I continue to learn ways to help myself maintain my sanity.