Originally Posted by
nieuanima 
My fear is that he is bringing his problem to the east coast...
.... am I enabling him to continuing using by providing a new place for him to continue his drug abuse?
Nieu
I cant say for you whether or not you are or are not enabling him to use, BUT
it has been my experience that if I step in to provide a soft landing for my grown child, she will not take FULL responsibility for her own life. If I soften the consequences of her choices, even a little, I am doing her no good.
I need to be honest and strong, courageous enough to risk discomfort for a time and see that I often do these rescue missions to make MY anxiety and parental guilt go away. I dont want to feel the feelings it brings up in me, so I take an action that feels better in the moment.
In the long run, I end up with resentments because she was not grateful enough, not you-name-it-enough, to have changed as I see fit.
For me, the codependency of parenting is the hardest work to heal through. Fortunately, I don't have to finish today!
Good luck in your situation. It sounds like you will have many golden opportunities for setting firm, clear boundaries. My only advise is to prepare for that now by coming to terms with yourself as far as what you will accept in your house and what the consequences will be should the lines be crossed or disrespected.