My personal experience with my daughter who is my addict is that anything you do for them just makes it easier for them to use. I won't tell you not to let him come home. Only you can make that decision. With my daughter, my boundary is she can't come home to live with us. I won't let her bring the chaos here. I love her with all my heart, but I absolutely know that I am not the solution. She knows that a rehab and halfway house is her option should she choose to leave her addict boyfriend and get help. She is 21 and in the past all my enabling did was to allow her to escape the consequences of her using. When she moved out of her apartment and into a house with her addict boyfriend, I was the one who went to the apartment and cleaned up the mess she had left. She and the boyfriend spent the day jonesing because they had no money for drugs. I have in the past paid bills for her, given her things that she should have gotten for herself and helped her go to one rehab which she left in 5 days and relapsed shortly after. I spent 7 months not seeing her and just recently have I allowed her back into my life. It took me that long to establish some very good boundaries with her. She knows that mom will not give her money, pay her bills or get her out of her consequences. She knows that I would like to see her go to rehab, but I don't harp on it. I respect her right to live her life the way she wants it and she respects my boundaries. Should that change I am willing to go back to no contact. I just know that for me I can't go back to that dark place with her. So what you do is up to you, but giving your son a soft place to fall is not going to get him clean and it could end up pulling you down with him. You can change your mind. His life is his responsibility not yours. Sending hugs and prayers your way because I know how tough it is when it is our children we are saying no to. Hugs, Marle