Welcome to SR! So glad that you found us
Please keep posting and as you know from reading other posts you are not alone in this.
I sure do hope and pray for you and the kids that this is the bottom for your husband-Cynay suggested Al-Anon or even counseling-for yourself. It did me wonders as I too was a victim of my XABF "Snapping" and it was not a good thing. The choice is yours ..please take good care of you and those children-