Hey 82tb, Glad you are here! Oh for sure- find an al-anon meeting near you, it will give you support just like you will find here for one thing. And the other- read more about detachment, It is truly about detaching yourself either physically or mentally from the situation. Just something you have to begin to practice. IE-try to take baby steps towards not picking up after him, could you talk to your mother and see if he can have the couch or another area to sleep in? Express how it bothers/interrupts your sleep when he comes in? I am sure these are things you have thought of, but I am just trying to give examples of ways to get around it. Its tuff having an elephant in the house everyone steps over, (elephant=alcoholic) but you can learn how to still keep your sanity even with him there. Hang in there-keep coming here and check out those meetings, they have great literature there as well. Get whatever you want off your chest, anytime. That helps so much.