Originally Posted by
LaTeeDa 
If I post something, based on my experience, with no ill will or hurtful intention, and you find it hurtful, is it something I need to contemplate, or you?
I think if it is kept in the "I" form I more than likely wouldn't find it hurtful. I might 'feel for you', but I don't think I would find it as an attack on me, or anyone, generally speaking! There are always those darned exceptions though!
It's when it's put in the "you should" or "how could you" forms that people tread in potentially unfriendly territory, generally speaking also, with those same darned exceptions!
I think one of the greatest difficulties here is you can't see a person's facial expressions (smilies help, but only to a point), and you can't read their body language either. Written word can be so misinterpreted at times.