Wow!! You women are fantastic. I'm new to posting but have been reading this site for a bit. My son is addicted to cocaine. He completed an 8 week rehab this summer and seems to be doing well. I don't trust the fact that I think he's doing well do to the addiction and what I'm learning. I am going to alanon and conceling (sp)) and am trying hard to not be so co-dependent but its hard. Hopefully I can get there~~~with some help. My question for tomight is this. How do you handle Xmas and alcohol in your homes? My therapist says its my house and I can give him the option of showing up later..right before dinner~~~bring a sponsor with him.......or not come at all. I would like to just have a non-alcoholic evening but this disease doesn't belong to everyone else...Thanks for some feedback on this. Smiles, BBD