My first husband (ex) was a drug user and alcoholic. I swore off men altogther ;-) It was me and my son "against the world" so to speak. I had a wall built up around me that none could penetrate. (I am woman see me roar etc etc etc)
That is until I met my second (and last) husband. He was gentle and patient and had also been through a rough marriage. He is not an alcohlic. He has stood by me with my issues with my A son when I think most men would have thrown up their hands and run away. We've been married for almost 23years now and things are good.
He is not a perfect man......but he is perfect for me. He is my love. My soulmate. My knight in shining armor. I don't know how I would have survived the last ten years dealing with my A son without his support.