Originally Posted by
cherylgwc 
My parents were not drinkers at all. May be it is the middle child syndrome.
Mine were not,either....although that may be changing with my dad. (and Mom is dead)
What I did learn through all this (and bits of info I never heard before or would have "noticed") is that in all likelihood both of their fathers were A's.....one a "dry" one while I knew him and the other a daily drinker as I recall. The "focus" was more on his wife's depression....
Interesting. One of my sister's was a closet drinker who lost her career by her A-behavior (but it got her to recovery) and another first cousin died directly from alcoholism at age 50y.
Like I've heard said....alcoholism is the (family) "gift that keeps on giving".
p.s. This is one of my worst fears,since the breakup of my 27y marriage.....to get involved with a new A. I did not know this one who just left me had a problem until about 20yrs into our marriage,although I noticed members in his family did years earlier than that....although they are a family of the "high-functioning type"; their interpersonal life/skills are all effected.