HBB is obviously going through some pain right now. She happens to be, at this time thinking often of her XAB and wanted to vent. This post is for HER. Can we please be supportive and quit pointing fingers and trying to be "right"? We all have different perceptions, and different feelings about a lot of things. Again, this site is for kindness and supporting, not a debate on who is right or wrong. Why do we need to argue who is a codependent or not? Does it matter? Support her in her pain. Support each other in all of our pain.
Thanks.