If one falls off of a 10 story building is it the fall or the sudden stop that kills you?
Alcohol has control over your life. I don't know even a heavy drinker who charts their consumption, spends untold hours concerned with alcohol, or is obsessed with how much they drink and when.
My question, and it is very genuine, are you more concerned with what category you fall into, or if alcohol has taken over your life? If it is the later, then does it really matter what you decide to call yourself?
I got my life back after I stopped having to plan my every move based on how it related to alcohol. I sincerely hope that you find a path that will lead out of this forest of confusion. I do salute you for your recognition that SOMETHING IS SERIOUSLY WRONG.
Good luck,
Jon