hey there
I'm not sure which is worse....
....watching someone you love falling further into the grip of addiction.
or
....watching the pain of the people you love who also love the addict.
It's all hard.
One of the first Alanon meetings I went to, a lady came up to me after the meeting and asked me "What nice thing are you going to do for YOU today."
The question seemed odd and "out of the blue".
I responded "Clean my house."
"No" she gently said "What nice thing are you going to do for YOU today."
I was baffled. I didn't understand what the heck she meant. She saw the confusion on my face and she asked "What makes you happy.....what do YOU like to do?"
Believe it or not, I was still confused. I had lost touch of what made me happy. I had lost touch with what I liked to do. My life, the life of my husband, the life of my daughter, the life of my co-workers.....all revolved around my A son.
I went home, filled the bathtub with bubblebath and really nice warm water. I sat in that tub and read (a book I picked up from Alanon that day). That was the beginning of me connecting with myself again.
So that is why I will ask you........"What nice thing are you going to do for YOU today."
gentle hugs to you