My husband became sober about 2 years ago and only started AA two months ago. I also started Al-Anon.
We seperately briefly over his affair in Jan '07. We went to marriage counseling and things were much better. But when he started AA in September ' 07 he came home from meetings depressed and distant. He denies another woman is involved. He has been going to 3-4 AA meetings a day, so there is no time for another woman
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Next thing I know, he says he can't be in the house. Says he is just starting to learn who he is. Says he is dealing will all the pain he has caused me and others and is guilty of the time he is away at AA and not home with me. Says I can do better than him and deserve better than him.
I told him that I was not upset that he was going to so many AA meetings (I was very happy in the fact he was getting help). He told me he loves me but is not sure he wants to be married to me or anyone.
He wants to be apart while he figures this out and he goes to AA and I go to Al-Anon.
I am absolutely heartbroken.