Duet -
thank you for such an insightful and healing post. I have wrestled with the forgiveness issue and finally understood that forgiveness and reconciliation are two completely different things. Forgiveness is something that I do for myself. God gave us memories because we need them....they help us to make our decisions for the future. I know that reconciliation is possible when the other person truly gets what they have done and is able to own that what they did was wrong and own the hurt that went with it. Also, reconciliation can occur when the other person is willing to make amends. Then, the issue of rebuilding a relationship can be addressed. That is why trust takes so long to rebuild.....it just all takes time.
Thanks for sharing this with us.
Donna