So he's now back with nobody for support other than me and my children, no family or friends to speak of.
So may times I see "us" as their only option. That's an illusion, it was for me and it is for any of us. We are NOT their only option...just maybe the only option that will let them continue and have a soft place to fall.
Other options are detox, rehab (the Salvation Army programs are free), a men's hostel where there are counselors who will help those who want help, and 3 hot meals a day and a safe, clean place to sleep...there are many options that do not include us.
My son used me as his "only option" too many times, and I only eliminated myself from the choices when I could no longer tolerate the chaos that came with letting anyone active in their addiction live in my home.
No guilt, there are many better choices out there if they are willing to reach out. If they are not willing, then living with "us" will only bring their hell into our home.
My prayers go out for you, I know this is hard.
Hugs