Help...He's back
Hi Everyone
It's been a very long time since I last posted and had hoped I wouldn't need to return...foolishly !
I would appreciate some ideas from you as to how I should deal with the following problem.
I eventually got my AH to leave our house in February after living separate lives for 6 months.The spilt was fairly amicable however he hasn't been able to accept that I will never take him back. He vowed to prove that he could get off the booze..all of the things that he thought I wanted to hear...all of course utter rubbish.
Anyway to cut a very long story short..He lost his job a few months ago due to problems created through the alcohol and at the same time was evicted from the property that he was renting.
He subsequently moved to be closer to his family which is 250 miles from here...a HUGE sigh of relief that somebody else would have to take him on....Sadly not to be, as 3 weeks later and he's back. His family have also washed their hands of him from what I can make out, as his mother gave him £1000 to help him out and he spent half of it in a week !
So he's now back with nobody for support other than me and my children, no family or friends to speak of.
Hes now staying in a Guest House with very little money, probably enough for another week...and then ??????
I am desperate ...what in earth do I do, this man is abusing my good nature and playing the sympathy cards. It's only a matter of days before he will truly be homeless and begging me to give him a roof over his head.
I really don't want to go back there...it's been 10 very long years of him lying and getting me into thousands of pounds of debt. I know that if I offer to put him up even for just one night I will never get rid of him again ...I feel all the negativity that I had started to shed creeping back in.
Please somebody tell me what I should do, I do not have the finances to help him and since he left my daughter and her 2 little children have moved in with me. I really do not want them to be exposed to this situation.
I have been firm and told him that he will never be welcome back into my home or my life, but it just doesn't seem to register with him, he still calls me 2-3 times a day.
HELP !