This post hit a nerve with me because I don't think a therapist should suck all of the hope out of you if you had any to begin with. I also don't think they should give you false hope.
The very first time I saw a therapist after my RAD started to use drugs....I asked her if my daughter would ever get better. Her answer
was a big fat NO she will not. In other words do not get you hopes up because she will never recover. HOPE is what keeps me alive. I am not being unrealistic but I agree with Ann and Cmc people do recover everyday. My son always talks about rock stars who were heavily addicted to a lot of hard drugs and today are clean and sober. Tommy Lee for one, read his story.
I don't believe that you should stay with a man who is not good for you and your children whether he recovers or not. But, no one can predict whether someone will recover or not.
I would get a new therapist......Lo