I remember thinking "why would I work the 12 steps when I am not the addict?"
After going back to the mtg. that was just right for me over and over I now know that the steps can be worked in all my affairs and all my relationships are better bec I did the work. The collective wisdom of a group can be awesome. It made me a better listener. If you choose never to go back you might want to order some Al-Anon books and gain what you can from reading.