I went to my first AlAnon meeting in 1990 at age 29. Despite the fact that I cried through most of it and knew in the deepest recesses of my mind that I belonged there, I left thinking it was a freak-show. Haughty or holier-than-thou denial is my default coping skill for FEAR. I will say that that particular group did not prove to be where I felt the most comfortable. It took going to 3-4 more different groups to find where I felt like I was part of the "tribe".