Smoke is so right Chandra. I, too have often had to "make" myself call a friend to go for dinner ir visit, "make" myself go for a walk or to a library or to anywhere that was not "here" just for the change of scenery and mentality. And it helped me change my habits.
We all tend to isolate when we hurt, and time alone to relax and think is okay, but as Smoke says "Nothing changes if nothing changes". And we MUST change ourselves, unless we are really thrilled with the way we are now.
Hugs