Originally Posted by
lostnfound1961 
Do you think that all boundrys should be stated to the person you are setting them for.
Well, first of all, the person you are setting them for is YOU. So, yes, you should be clear about them.
As far as the person you are protecting yourself from, I guess it depends on the boundary. Example: If you are drunk and speaking to me disrespectfully, I will leave. You could state it--ONCE--as a kind of fair warning. But then, don't repeat it, just do it. As far as the buying beer, same thing. I am not going to buy beer for you anymore. Or, you can just stop doing it. Either way, the boundary is for YOU, not him. If you keep that in mind, you will know when you need to say something and when it doesn't matter.
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