Still getting used to boundaries myself! I didn't tell my abf about no longer buying alcohol for him. I only ever did once or twice for him. Soon enough he asked me to get him a can from the fridge and I told him then, 'You'll have to get it yourself, I don't want to touch it.' He got a bit haughty because of it, thought I was joking till I came in from the kitchen without one for him, then he knew I was serious!!