Ugh, if I drank that much a night when I was drinking I'd be sick. Can't call any one an alcoholic,but it sounds as if your wife is abusing the stuff big time. My ex and I got sober around the same time, I'm the one with the problem and he thinks just because he quit on his own, he is not an alcoholic. Remember if she is pointing the finger at you,four are pointing back at her. I hope she gets the help she needs and I hope things get better for you.