welcome to S.R. i am so sorry about your dad. i know this is heartbreaking. the addict in my life is my son. there is so much info on this board. please read around & read the top of the forum "what addicts do". there is nothing u can do for dad. the only person who can help your dad is himself. addiction does not get any better till the addict wants it to.they have to fall & hit there bottom before they can want to help them self. the drug is powerful. it should not be hid from other family members.the 3c's helped me alot.i did not CAUSE it ,i can not CONTROL it & i can not CURE it. get your mom to go to naranon meetings & go yourself. i am saying a prayer for you,your dad & your family. please keep coming back & let us know how you are doing.hugs,hope