I am pretty new to this site, but unfortunately not new to loving an addict/alcoholic. I think actually I just found this about 3 weeks ago.
Anyway, I have been amazed at how non-judgemental people here are and how helpful.
Most everyone will tell you to go to a meeting of some sort.
Trust in the people here, we have all been there, done that!
None of us really ever thought we would be here either, but we are and this is a wonderful place for support and inspiration!
Good luck and hope to hear see more of your posts.