tired....when i first heard about al-anon, i thought everyone would get up and tell their stories. but that is not what happened at all. we don't talk about our alcoholics.....we talk about us.
we have some books in al-anon called "one day at a time" and "courage to change". they are a composite of daily readings. we read for the dated day, and then talk about with each other our feelings about what the message is in the reading.
all the readings are centered around helping us to find our own serenity, and to look ourselves.
i just sat and cried for the first 6 months when i would hear the discussions about how to regain ourselves. but i didn't talk much at all. and no one expects you to until you are reading. they felt like a huge, comfy, comforter and a safe place to be for me.