I had a conversation with my therapist once lamenting why I didn't come to her long before I did. Why it took me sooooooooo long to learn what I've learned. Wondering if things might have turned out differently if I had sought help before things went beyond repair.
She said unfortunately, it human nature to resist asking for help, resist changing, until we are forced to by whatever it is that forces us. Usually, it takes a huge crisis or otherwise untolerable situation to get us there. Too soon old, too late smart.
What have you got to lose?
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