I know I am tired after work too and once I'm home don't want to go back out.
Where we put the focus is where we see results.When your current situation is bad enough maybe you'll try Al-anon to help you see your part in it and help you change the way you think. There are prob mtgs. on Sat. or Sun. I go to a Sat. mtg.
You can order Al-anon literature on line or visit the Al-anon headqtrs. in your county. I have even checked Alanon book out of public library. There are ways to start working the program. It does work if you work it.