Techie, not to be discouraging, but it took me about two years before I actually decided to make my first Alanon meeting. I guess the answer is when you are ready, you will be ready. For myself, it literally took a "rock bottom" event in my life to make me get up off my azz and do it!
Call your local number and explain to them your situation. Whenever I have called, the person on the other end always was accomodating. They are available 24/7.