Do you guys have room for yet another sister from a different Mother? lol I am going through this right now and it will flat shred your soul. I've been reading along and it really has helped. My last therapist actually labeled my Mom as an alcoholic that didn't drink- more of a narcissist, and suggested that I follow the readings of ACOA. It finally made me understand that I wasn't crazy. That the feelings that I had were normal for someone with my experience.
I'm struggling with the boundary issues, but with each appropriate boundary that I set (AND RESPECT) I feel a little lighter.
Thank you all for sharing your experience and thoughts.