Spidey, I'm going through something similar right now. I've tried for three years to get help, and within three days of joining this community I'm going to attend my first AA meeting. I think the first step is just talking to people who know your situation--which you've just done. So bravo for that.
Good luck. I believe in you. If you ever want to talk with someone in the same stage of recovery, my AIM sn is endlessdelirivm.