I had a crush at 9 months. I got over it. Her and I are still good friends.
That's one of the pitfalls of romance in the rooms. If it goes south, what do you do when you go to a meeting and "He or She" is there ?
As far as the emotions. I'm getting used to them. I accept that they are just feelings, and not always based on fact. I let them wash over me, and don't try to elude them. If it gets real bad, I'll call another alkie, my sponsor, or pray. (Or all three)