Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path… (page 58, Alcoholics Anonymous).
Notice they didn't say, KINDA followed our path,
They didn't say, went to meetings but didn't do the steps...
yada, yada, yada...
I kept relapsing too. I am now living in a sober house for men. Yes what I did was drastic (I left my whole life behind), but I need to do whatever it takes (for me) to stay sober. I don't want to go there any more, never again.
One of the big sayings is "it works if you work it".
So how do you work it?
Ask a higher power for help in the morning.
Plan your day around a meeting. (Make sobriety your #1 priority).
Get a sponsor and call him every day.
Get active in AA. (make coffee, go on committments, put away chairs, etc.)
Call two other members of AA during the day, even if just to say hi.
Before you retire for the evening, thank your higher power for the simple fact that you are laying your head on your pillow sober.
You have the tools, they are right there in front of you.
It is up to you to use them or not.
Should you go to rehab? I can't answer that.