Welcome to SR. I found that reading subject matter literature, a very good therapist who specialized in addiction counseling, and posting here has provided the support and education I needed.
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Because 
I have saved his life over and over again.... But, I suppose some people just don't want to be saved....
My life is chaos and he does not recognize all that I have done for him and am doing for him right now.
I thought rescuing was a valid solution too. I grew to resent my ex because my efforts didn't produce the desired results.
There are some classic posts that might help...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...cters-1-a.html
and my favorite...
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...hlight=10+ways