I would like to welcome you to SR too. My daughter is my addict. She is 21. Started using when she was around 18-19. She also uses heroin or any opiate she can get and is bulimic. She currently lives with her 37 year old crack addict boyfriend who supplies the drugs to her. It is so hard to let them go but my boundary is that my daughter will not live with me again while she is active in her addiction. Right now she knows she has a problem but is not ready to do anything to help herself. I have not seen her since March. More my choice than hers as I cannot watch her destroy herself without it destroying me in the process. I have used my time apart to become stronger and to find happiness for myself. The more time I spend away from addiction the stronger I become. Take care of yourself and if you do not want your daughter home, make that clear to her and stand by it. Someday she will appreciate and respect your decision. Hugs, Marle