i am late on this but i want to welcome you to S.R.... i am the mom of an addict son.we can not live our childrens lives for them.i love my son very much but i have given up all the faith i had in him, not my H.P. i have hope for him but after 19yrs. of his drinking & using & all the prison terms he has served due to drugs i have had to detach.go to your meeting to nite & keep coming back here.it will save your sanity. it is NOT your fault she uses,not matter what it is NOT your fault.read the stickys at the top of the forum"what addicts do" keep coming back here.prayers,hope