(( forgottenchild )) My heart goes out to you. Yes, it's okay to detach and not rush to his aid this time. As the mother of an A I understand how you're feeling.
It's okay to love him from a distance, from a place you feel safe and whole, and that is a very loving, courageous thing to do for both of you. To let go takes love.
I cried my way through the detachment process and came through it to a place of acceptance and peace. I attended alot of alanon meetings then. Can't say enough for all I was given in alanon. It saved my life.
Please keep posting. This is a safe place. We care, share, understand and support. We're here for you.
Hugs
Last edited by frankie_b; 10-06-2007 at 08:13 PM.