I had no husband when I slid into alcoholism
and still do not in sobriety.
Sooo...I can not relate to that.
The reason I suggested AA is my depression turned
out to be situational. Once I stopped drinking for 3
months...it did vanish.
And...
you can make new women friends in AA meetings
to help with your feelings of sadness and lonliness.
My AA friends are so very kind and understanding.
Just go and listen. What can it hurt?