"HE told me that the people in the bars truly think that ABF is brilliant, a tradgedy...They buy him drinks for the priveledge of sitting next to him, and hearing his jokes."
"Admittedly, his childhood friend, who is a psychologist has informed me that he has been this way since he began drinking in high school, a true con man, a real maasterful manipulator. HE also claims that when he has been sober for periods of time, that A is the most generous, kind, talented,and precious person. This is who I met and fell in love with. "
Once again, I am amazed and horrified how so many As seem to be a rubber stamp image of each other. I could have written those words about my own XABF. He once was successful, lively, charismatic. Yet all the while he lived another sickening life ruled by his mistress alcohol. And now he is a 50 year old waste doing exactly what your BF is doing in that bar ... reliving "glory days" that really never existed and seem like the stuff of legends to barroom losers.