all the bar people know that he lied all the while, and they treat him like he is some kind of movie star
Well, remember, they're bar people because they hang around in bars and are As themselves or on the right track. Why would you trust what they think? Why would you even care? And they probably only treat him like a "movie star" because, guess what!, he's buying the drinks! Don't look a gift horse in the mouth!
XABF used to complain about having lost all his friends over the years and did conclude during a sober period that the only reason these "friends" hung out with him was because he was buying the drinks. And I saw him "in action" on one occasion after he started drinking heavily again. The more he drank, the more generous he became. The best company for an A are lots of drinkers!
the A becomes a king in his mind, and his drinking world is his realm. In this case, he actually does have minions, and followers. They arent real friends, of course, but they are so loyal to him, and some of my friends have even crossed over to become his fans. He is that crazy charismatic.
Whatever YOU believe is just pure fantasy for all the drinkers involved. None of them are real friends, as you say. They probably don't understand the disease any more than your XABF does. Do you really want to be part of his fan club?
The best thing you are doing is going to Al Anon and working this obsession out of your system. It isn't healthy thinking, is it? You are depriving yourself of sleep and that affects the rest of your life and everything you want to do for YOU!
Let go.......and get some good sleep tonight!
Hugs!
ARL