First, God is in control, whether or not you allow him to do his work. Second, you seem intent (as most of us have in the past) to minimize the impact of the outcome on your addict's actions and behavior. Your description is rife with blame on the facilities, the judges, lawyers, probation people etc. and mitigating statements like "yes, he took the tool, but it was returned.." Well guess what, stealing is stealing and if it weren't for his addiction, he wouldn't have done that. If it weren't for his addiction, he would be facing these problems, etc. etc.
The more you try to orchestrate the outcomes, the crazier and more an anxious you'll become. Having a famlily, doesn't make it any easier. But letting go and letting God take care of you and, letting your husband deal with his own situation, will eventually allow him to face his consequences and allow you to focus on yourself and your family. It's not an easy path, but in the end, you will be better off. And your husband may just hit bottom and get the help he needs for himself (not what you try to orchestrate for him).
Continue to read and see if you can find an Alanon or Naranon meeting - you'll be surprised how typical your situation is (which is a comfort, because you will see many people who have come out well on the other end!).
Godspeed.
LH