Now I feel he's just miserable with me and the kids.
Par for the course when one is not actively involved in recovery. I had 5 years or so white knuckling it, and I was a "joy" to be around I'm sure. I hated everything.
Anyway, He's gonna do what he's gonna do. Continue to work
your program. It's gonna play out like it plays out, whether you interfere or not.