AHHHHHHH I wrote this big response to all of you and deleted it!!!!!!
Oh well it turned into a rant anyway. I plan to write some notes before going and while we are there. I will keep an open mined and do my part. But the bottom line is this. I can jump through all the hoops in the world but if he is drinking it will be for nothing. I am going to be 46 in novermer and I would like to have a chance in this life to be happy before my face turns into a road map.
Thanks for the feedback and I update you on Monday.