hi lost
well, when my xh and i went to counseling i had the exact ideas that you had.
boy, was i in for an eyeopener.....now, this is just my experience.
i was shocked when the counselor not only did not validate what i was sure she would validate, but she turned so much of it back onto me.....for instance, she deeply questioned me about my role in our relationship, and why i kept choosing to stay involved in trying to fix my ex. she asked me why i thought i was so right about how things should be, and why i felt entitled to take on the role of savior....she also asked me what gave me the idea that i felt so knowledgeable about what was right.
although his addiction was discussed, it was mostly supportive and what he wanted to do about his addiction....was he really ready to gain sobriety and recovery.
she focused on how much i was enabling him.
i went away so pissed that she didn't whoop up on him with me. it seemed it was all about me and my attitude, while he was the addict!!!!
took me a long time to understand all that.
couples counseling can be tricky, because each person is looking for validation that they are the one who is right and the other one is whacked.
best to you and i hope you have a good session.
hugs
jeri