Layla, hand in there! The anti-depressants help but the addiction to him is the ultimate fix. I am struggling with it myself with my AW but the first step is to realize what it is and how to see when you are doing it. In my opinion, telling our A that we need to work on ourselves is a problem. It just opens us up to criticism and we usually do it to get approval or support from our A. This is a sign of the unhealthy actions as a codependent to our A. Work on you.......with your own approval and feeling of accomplishment. Remember, you are not working on yourself to be a better person for your A or to show your A or even to get the recognition of your A. You work on yourself for YOU!
Hang in there!
