(((Virginia))))
First, WELCOME TO SR!!!
You've found a community of caring people who will share their experience, strength and hope with you as we walk the path of recovery. It's a great first step.
My next best suggestion is this. Please get to a naranon or alanon meeting asap. That's the best thing you can do for yourself, and, incidently, for her too. You will learn how to take care of YOU first; to set boundaries; to recognize what is yours and what is not; and to know that you didn't cause it; can't control it and can't cure it. But, you can cope with it.
This is a difficult road you are on. My son was a child when he started. He too is a heroin addict. He's clean now, after 13 years of drug use, but, he's not "normal.'' (whatever that is.) My heart goes out to you.
We're here, 24/7. Whenever you need. There's almost alwasy someone here to talk with. I look forward to getting to know you as we both grow in our recovery.
Shalom!