Every share on here is revealing as to what good recovery means, it appears as though it pretty much boils down to the need to recover a relationship with self first before moving on to other relationships, mine was a little different then that, but I let my wife know when I came out of detox and into AA that my primary focus was going to have to be myself and my recovery, thank goodness she understood.
My recovery does at times strain our relationship, but we are both aware that our relationship depends upon my recovery and not the other way around.